“It requires tons of repetition with focus. High achievement doesn't require inborn talent. It requires working your ass off.” ~ David Googins
Hey Reader!
In this last email of Confidence Month, I’m going to talk about probably the most uncomfortable tool in the whole series: the Accountability Mirror.
It comes from David Goggins. If you don’t know him, he was overweight, miserable, and going nowhere. One day, he got fed up and decided he was done making excuses. Two years later, he became a Navy SEAL, then went on to complete 50 ultramarathons. He also holds the record for completing 4,025 pull-ups in 17 hours. And more!
Ok. He’s a little over the top. But what I like about him is he doesn’t talk about confidence like it’s something you’re born with. He talks about it like it’s something you earn. And work on every day.
One of the tools he used was the “Accountability Mirror.” He’d put sticky notes on a mirror with his goals and the small steps he had to take to get there. Each day, he couldn’t ignore what he was supposed to be doing. Then, at night, he’d look in the mirror and tell himself the brutal truth about who he was and what he actually did that day. No excuses.
And yeah, it’s weird. Talking to yourself is one thing. Talking to yourself while staring at yourself is another.
So, how does this relate to your game?
I think a lot of “confidence problems” are actually “preparation problems.” You can’t expect to feel confident if you haven’t set real goals, been honest about what you need to fix, and then actually done the work.
Try this. After a game, ask yourself hard questions like these:
Did you miss those wide-open threes because you “aren't confident” or because you haven’t practiced enough shots?
Did you miss that free throw because you are “in your head” or because you haven’t worked on free throws in weeks?
Did you get cooked by your man because the other guy is “just faster” or because you haven’t studied top defenders?
- If it’s a skill problem, you can fix it.
- If it’s a habits problem, you can fix it.
- If it’s an honesty problem, you can fix it.
Confidence is built by proof. And reps.
So, this holiday break, grab some sticky notes and a marker and get really honest with the person in the mirror.
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